i’m working on being less of a monster and more of a lover, so i made a list of improvements that should happen: 1. focus 2. listen 3. be empathetic 4. take a time-out 5. look for compromise 6. stop seeing the forest for the trees here it goes… Focus: don’t beat dead horses and bring up past topics. focus on the here and now. Listen: hear what the other person is saying instead of thinking about how i’m going to defend myself or what i’m are going to say next. stop trying to think of ways to shoot down what they are currently saying. Be empathetic : try to really see the other side, even if i don’t agree. i know i’m stubborn and probably won’t agree fully or be persuaded, but understanding where the other person is coming from will help resolve the conflict. Take a time-out: don’t have an emotional outbursts and purposefully make things worse. say that i need a few minutes or a moment and i’ll come back to where i left off after i calm down. Look for compromise: admit when i’m wrong, if i’m totally wrong. try to find some kind of agreement or at least show that i see what’s going on and why its a problem. Stop seeing the forest for the trees: start looking at the big picture. it takes two people to maintain a relationship. think about where i want things to go in the long run and if i’m doing what is necessary to make sure it gets there.
Posted on Monday, 25 October 2010
“you got a list to be makin’”
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